
Listening To:
A Movie Script Ending
Death Cab for Cutie
This past week marked the first year anniversary of living in New York City and, as I have a penchant for lists, I thought it would be appropriate to mark the occasion with a top 5 list. So the following, in no particular order, is a list of the Top 5 Things I have Learned From my First Year in New York City.
1) Subways: Never regret missing the R train. Don’t rush for it or worry about not catching it. It always ends up adding at least 5 more minutes to where ever I am going anyway. Also, and this may seem obvious but, when rushing for trains don’t assume that the train stopped on the platform is the train I want. Many times running late have I rushed onto a train running the wrong direction and going express. Sometimes commuting takes poise!
2) Bars: Nothing good happens after 3am. One thing about New York City is that the bars in this town don’t shut down to 4 am and coming from a place where the night ends at 2 am, this originally seemed like a Wonderland. However, just because the bar is open until 4 doesn’t mean I should stay until 4. It’s not necessarily that I frequent dives or dangerous parts of town all that often but it’s still New York City and better safe than sorry. If my night ends at 3 am it’s still can be a good night, this is my idea of responsibility.
3) The city: Be mindful of the city. It’s the biggest and best city in the world. Take time to appreciate it and be grateful but also be aware that it is antagonistic. I don’t just mean the people either, I mean everything from the traffic to the weather to the buildings: everything. Keep track of when you are up on New York and when New York is up on you. Just like everything else I have come to realize that this city too has good days and bad days. At least for me in my first year things got easier for me when I realized that the city was actually a living breathing entity that really was inherently antagonistic-I think I realized it early this year in the blizzard, or maybe it was on the R train?
4) The clock: Time matters here. People always say life is faster here and “the New York minute…” phrase, it’s the equivalent of the “coldest winter I ever spent…” San Francisco phrase. I don’t know if time is necessarily faster here than other places but I have learned that time means more here than it does other places. I guess it might go back to the city being antagonistic, but it didn’t take me very long to learn there is nothing in between being late and being early in this town. If I think I have time usually I don’t, the city can always find ways to put you behind schedule. Be early.
5) Growing: Trust you instincts. After living here for a couple of months I started to recognize the lessons I was learning by living here. New York City is a place impacted with opinions. You should do this, do that, live like this, live like that, eat this, eat that and all the rest. I’m not trying to put down advice here or other people’s opinions but the best way I have found to learn is following my instincts, and I have at times been guilty this year of not doing that all the time, when you are starting out instincts are a tough thing to trust. Still the times when I have not followed them this year have led to some worthwhile but tough lessons.
So that’s my Top 5 New York lessons this year. I don’t mean this as much as advice so much as being grateful to friends, family and this city for teaching me these things this year. Thanks New York and I’m sure there’s more in store.